When someone loves, let’s say, coffee, but for various reasons is unable to enjoy the pleasure of that particular beverage, “delightful” in its specific characteristics, hour by hour the “need” grows for something “similar” with which to substitute it: a surrogate.
So it is in the life of a woman, when, for reasons that lead back to manifest or latent conflicts in a relationship, she is denied physical relations with her husband, she will, perhaps unconsciously, go in search of a substitute: that is, a surrogate. The analyses of the majority of charts show us that there can be many types of surrogate and in some cases we can confirm that the “surrogate” can be the perfect way of revitalising marital relations. One returns, so to speak, to savour again the pleasurable flavour of the “coffee”.
Most common among many motivations that drive a woman to substitute her “coffee” are the following:
- lack of understanding between the partners
- difficulty conceiving
- an authoritarian husband
- economic crises or failures
- the crisis of the empty nest
However, the most common and important instigator comes from the fact that every woman in her married life sacrifices a part of herself in order to submit herself to the “traditional” role of the wife, defined by the husband because he feels it to be in some way “natural”. The bonds of living together, dictated by matrimony or, these days ever more often, by cohabitation, bestows security on the couple, giving rise to some general mechanisms. The man tries to impose his personality and his needs, while the woman, out of her atavistic fear of abandonment and violence, tries to comply with him in return for a quiet life, thus repressing her own individuality. However, at the moment in which the woman reaches the limits of repression, she rebels and shows her discontent either in an extreme way or by projecting it onto the little things of daily life.
This modus vivendi does not become too burdensome because in the couple’s relationship she has a little space for herself that permits her to hang on to her own personality. But the moment the couple becomes a family she bears the responsibility of holding that family together, thus becoming both mother to her children and mother to her husband: it’s not by chance that it’s at this point that some men start to call their wives “Mom”. The security of the bonds of affection become ever more robust; the man, even if, on the one hand, he feels a little left out because he has to make way for the new arrival, on the other, he feels it is less likely that his wife will leave him or have some suitor, preoccupied as she is with looking after the child, in doing the domestic chores and keeping up her career. As a consequence, the wife, being no longer desired by the husband as a woman, goes from being unsatisfied to being restless, needing to recover her own femininity and inevitably, so as not to “implode” as a person, seeks a surrogate so she can “explode” as a woman.
Examining the birth charts of women who find a substitute coffee, there is a common denominator: the almost total absence of a father or a peripheral or indirect paternal relationship; this would seem of little importance, so rarely is it spoken of, yet it is in fact this grave lack that causes vacillation in the woman’s sense of security in her future relationship with her partner. It is the mother figure that is the unique protagonist in raising the children, with all their qualities and their “faults”, and that is why I refer so often to her in my articles.
Often, I hear it said: “But times have changed…! These days, the husband helps the wife” but this very statement makes clear that the relationship is not one of equals: if someone is a helper, then they are in a dependent position obliged to follow the dictates of the other, who must take on all the responsibility for running things. In times past, when most women were housewives, that situation had some sense since the husband was preoccupied with his work and supporting the family economically, but today, with women going to work, contributing to the family budget, all that is unacceptable.
Why must the woman work more than the man to make the family run smoothly?
The reply is in the laws of a patriarchal society that still exists today and which women find hard to shake off.
In all analyses of birth charts, which gave rise to this research, the thing that is most striking is the similarity of the horoscopic charts of the husband, or partner, and the surrogate. If the husband reveals Pluto in disharmony with Mars or the Moon, in many cases the lover will reveal this aspect too; they have analogous lives, above all in the realm of emotion and sexuality. It’s clear that each one of us follows our own psychological imprint that is acquired during our first experience of affection, that is, with our parents. We’re all individuals, each different from the other, with our feminine side and our masculine side, which is difficult to change during the course of our lives. The real indication of our development is, in fact, the surrogate; when their emotional-sexual characteristics, and therefore certain aspects of their birth chart, are different to those of the husband or partner, then we can be sure that something inside of us has changed.
I shall now refer of the figure of the Husband who is interchangeable with the surrogate, in as much as he is, in his turn, the lover of other women. His character traits derive from an incomplete and immature relationship with his mother, a fractured Moon, and the separation from her becomes problematic, so much so that he tries to substitute her with a companion.
One finds many aspects in his birth chart but the one that occurs most frequently is the Moon in aspect with Neptune, or in Neptune’s houses or signs, such as the ninth house – Sagittarius, the eleventh house – Aquarius, or the twelfth house – Pisces.
The mother figure comes through as misty, ill-defined, moving from moments of extreme sensitivity and affection to moments in which she is receding, above all when she must lay down limits or forbid certain things; she notices him only if she is exasperated by some situation and, precisely for this reason, she reacts in an exaggerated way. As a consequence, the subject becomes used to living with emotional instability and, therefore, when he begins to have a stable relationship, the monotony, the regularity and the security of the relationship restrain him or actually motivate him to stir up his emotions, spurring him on towards the search for new demands and therefore new relationships.
Another aspect that is often found is the Moon in opposition with or aligned with Pluto, conflicts arising from the incomplete acceptance of the subject on the part of the mother figure, which gives rise to a love-hate relationship with the mother, then with all women; he moves from moments of great passion, eroticism and jealousy to moments of rejection and disparagement of the feminine. In most of the cases analysed, this aspect prompts the masculine subject to choose, for his first sexual experience, a much older woman than himself, sometimes twice his age. He thus experiences strong, almost violent passion because his naivety, his simplicity, comes into contact with the experience of a sophisticated woman and this forces him to grow up quickly to achieve equality with his partner. A difficult and stimulating challenge that nurtures a profound sense of his own inferiority to women.
This becomes a complex that drives him to always be in competition with the feminine figure, leaving him eternally unsatisfied by the relationships he establishes with them; frustration that spurs him to continually seek out other women, who must strongly stimulate and excite him, recalling in this way his first experience.
Another aspect that is frequently found in the birth chart of the surrogate is Pluto in opposition to or in alignment with Mars, which engenders in the person’s soul a fear of castration, which shows itself as a fear of penetration, the fear of inadequacy in the fulfilment of sexual relations, a problem that may drive him to sleep with many women, exactly because it is novelty that creates the necessary passion to sustain the sex act. Beyond this, having numerous, brief relationships is a good way of hiding oneself and concealing one’s own inadequacy.

Aries, Scorpio and Gemini are three signs in which Pluto is in his house and exalted, and these three signs are precisely those most represented in the figure of the surrogate. Pre-eminent, naturally, is Aries, with his rip-roaring sexual energy; as soon as he sees the object of his desire, he impulsively charges his prey and deploys all his vigour in capturing her: he’s always by her side, he’ll drive hundreds of kilometres by car to be with her just for five minutes, he seduces her by making her feel unique and indispensable, showering her with attention and gifts. The relationship almost always begins with sex, and affection comes only afterwards. Because of the ardour he uses in the conquest, he can have only one lover at a time, although there are, of course, exceptions, and because of his irrationality and the way he rushes headlong into the relationship, his recklessness eventually comes to light. The opposite occurs when the person belongs to or has strong qualities bound to Scorpio in their birth chart: sexual relationships, which may be multiple, are directed with extreme lucidity and may be concealed for a lifetime. When he is attracted to a woman, he approaches her stealthily, and studies her to try to understand her psychological mechanism in order to conquer her. If the prey is difficult, that only becomes a challenge for him, a greater stimulus to possess her and to achieve that goal, and he will use any means necessary. His tactics are to attract her to himself, only to then push her away, and recapture her again, thereby unleashing his passion, all of which makes the relationship very vibrant, founded on eroticism and sexuality; rarely on affection. For a subject who belongs to or has strong qualities bound to Gemini in their birth chart, courting is the most erotic phase, because he experiences it as a mental game that delights him. Once he sees a woman who attracts him, he immediately approaches her and, like an adolescent, begins to shower her with compliments and sweet nothings, all the more so if there are others present. He follows that up with an invitation to dinner, or the theatre, or a concert, or a picnic, or a bicycle ride; he enjoys talking on any subject from philosophy to the most banal topic. When the woman is conquered and ready to have sex with him, he retreats, unless there are other qualities in his birth chart that support him, such as Pluto bound positively to the Sun or Mars.

But returning to the woman, that is, to SHE who needs a surrogate in order to taste once again the pleasurable flavour of the coffee, we can say that from the astrological point of view the Moon is the real protagonist. Often present in the birth chart will be a scorpion Moon or one bound to Pluto, a Moon in Libra or bound to Saturn.
In cases in which the Moon, which symbolises woman, and her femininity, is bound to Pluto, which represents vital-sexual energy, we find ourselves before a person who has the need to dwell in the creative, the productive, and thus in her sexuality, in the energy of her own libido.
In cases where the Moon is in harmonious aspect (in conjunction, sestile or in trigon) we find before us a tough, creative woman who is ready to fight, to risk everything, to use whatever means are necessary, in silence, hiding every fact or proof, to obtain what she profoundly desires, and often she succeeds in the endeavour. The roots of her conspicuous individuality and her sense of dignity lie in her acceptance of her personality on the part of her mother, who made her feel sure of herself. Her way of seducing a man is innate; her sexuality oozes from her pores, the way she carries herself. When she seeks a surrogate, she lines up her weapons to get herself noticed; she accentuates her sex-appeal, wearing clothes that show the lines of her figure, then she takes on the role of the prey, ready to be hunted, but if she sees that the hunter is giving up, then she’ll move in and provoke him in order to continue the hunt. At the moment she believes herself to be conquered, then she begins a passionate relationship – very intense sex in which she completely lets herself go. Rarely will a partner or surrogate dominate her exactly because her individuality is so strong and deep-rooted.

In HER chart, the triple conjunction of the Moon, Uranus and Pluto occurs in Virgo, the Moon and Pluto in the fifth house, while Uranus is in the fourth house. The triple conjunction is in opposition to Jupiter in Pisces, in the tenth house, and in trigon with Mercury in Capricorn, in the eighth house. For this reason, we can say that this woman has a vital and creative individuality, a little explosive, but which is kept under control in as much as daily life tends to diminish her potentiality. She knows, however, how to take advantage of opportunity, is well organised, determined in her decisions, is precise and methodical. This allows her to achieve good results in her studies, to find work that satisfies her, easily picking up languages on her travels, and she quickly succeeds in carving out a good career. Emotionally, she is a little unsatisfied because she finds it difficult to find her kindred spirit. When she meets him, however, all her determination begins to crumble. At around 27, she will have a passionate but fleeting encounter.

He in fact is impeded by the position of Uranus in Virgo, in the tenth house, with Venus in Gemini in the ninth house, which will bestow emotional uncertainty, further accentuated by the position of Venus between the Moon and Saturn and by the opposition of Uranus to the Moon and Saturn, which are found in the fifth house, where the Moon is in Aquarius and Saturn in Pisces. From the aspect formed by the Moon and Venus, one can assume great conflicts between him and the mother figure, and therefore all women. Effectively, his relationship with his mother is one of dependence: he can’t make a decision without her say-so.
SHE however, through her determination gets him to the altar and gains him social prestige and riches, Jupiter in Aries, in the eighth house, in the sixth to the Moon and to Saturn.
With marriage, which was the obvious conclusion for both of them, since both present the Sun in the seventh house, the first problems begin due to the fact that he transfers the role of mother to the wife, with the consequence that their sexual relations become desultory, and, bit by bit as time passes, diminish more and more. Then SHE tries to revitalise her sexual activity with the pretence of having a child, the Moon in conjunction with Pluto and in trigon with Mercury; in this way, she invigorates their sex life but without getting pregnant.
After discovering through various analyses that the husband is the cause of the infertility because his sperm count is low, and weak, they begin, on the advice of a medical specialist, a schedule of sexual activity based on the period of her greatest fecundity. Organisation, schedules, rationality, though fine for HER (Moon in conjunction with Uranus) only further exasperates the husband, so much so that it induces him to retreat from reality, rejecting sex completely. And thus SHE is driven toward a surrogate.
A casual meeting during a trip and she shakes off the heavy burden of her relations with her husband.
 

We immediately notice that in the birth chart of the SURROGATE the Sun is in Aries, in the seventh house, like the husband, and, indeed, so is the Moon, situated in Virgo, in the twelfth house, negative to Venus, situated in Pisces, in the sixth house. Also present is the same Ascendant and therefore the same house. In effect, we find ourselves before a person who is also married but because of the importance that he gives to that, it will be difficult to break the legal relationship: an aspect that we also find in the birth chart of HER. The sensitivity and the courting that he employs are the sparks that ignite her femininity, her womanliness.
She is soon attracted by his histrionic, charming and free and easy manner, derived from the trigon of Jupiter with Pluto that gives him his charisma and charm and allows him to be successful with women. But after an intense and overwhelming period of passion and sex, the two are obliged to return to their families. For HER this is traumatic, sufficient to effectively distance the husband creating an invisible barrier that separates them. The husband, Aries, confronted with this new situation, reinvents himself and tries to recover his pre-eminence, immediately beginning to court her and make love to her. In this context, she becomes pregnant; she succeeds in having what she desired. But the contemporaneous relationship has left her with her a secret anxiety, throughout her pregnancy, caused by doubts about the paternity of the child (Mercury in the eighth house, co-significant Scorpio).
In cases where the Moon is in dominant aspect to Pluto (aligned and opposing) we find before us a woman who does not accept her own ‘I’ because she was first rejected by her mother. As a consequence, it’s a relationship laden with conflict between love and hate, between creativity and destruction, that manifests itself in a continuous search for approval and of faith on the woman’s part, compared to the mother figure, almost a blessing, and one that she finds very difficult to have. The extra-marital relationships, of which she feels the need, can become the spark that destroys the marriage or partnership. Her way of seducing the surrogate oscillates between two opposing tendencies depending whether she feels accepted or not. When she comes across a man who attracts her, she starts to take care of the way she looks, perhaps in an exaggerated fashion, because she has never felt beautiful enough, her innate sensuality comes to the fore and she puts herself in a dependent position, that is she hangs on his every word, she allows him to take the initiative, she immediately gives herself to him sexually; but it is she, however, who calls him, who fixes the next appointment, who takes the lead in carnal relations. The moment she feels that the relationship is beginning to wobble, she tries to “serve him” ever more, to shower him with phone calls, while the physical side is left to dwindle until the affair finally ends.

Examining the birth chart of HER 1, we see that the Moon is in Gemini in the second house, aligned with the conjunction between Pluto-Uranus, located in Virgo, in the sixth house. Thus she lives out the conflict caused by the Moon in Gemini, which predisposes her to being vivacious, swift in pace and in decisions, curious and socially mobile and drawn to the novelty of the moment, using intrigue and persuasiveness in getting what she wants; extrovert and communicative. The Moon in the second house, co-significant Taurus, slows her rhythm and her decisions, which must always be made with respect to the harmony of the clan, and similarly her social contacts are formed predominately within her own sphere, in which the traditional rules must be respected. Such contrasts are accentuated by the alignment of the Moon with the conjunction Pluto-Uranus.
She was an unwanted child, because the mother, a devoted follower of Catholicism, got pregnant outside wedlock.
The relationship between mother and daughter hovered between love and hate, between acceptance and rejection, accompanied by difficulties in effective bonding, owing to the trauma of abandonment that she experienced at birth; Venus in Libra, in the sixth house, in opposition to Saturn in Aries, in the twelfth house. Her femininity is completely negated until she reaches adolescence; she survives above all by showing her masculine side, which helps her to find her place and realise herself within the clan, and in her relationships with friends and others (the conjunction of Pluto-Uranus in trigon with Mars, which is situated in Capricorn, in the tenth house, and Pluto in the sixth to the Sun, which is located in Scorpio in the seventh house). As she matures, she is forced to become aware of her own femininity; she accepts and takes care of her appearance, but psychologically she rejects her womanliness.
At twenty years old, in the workplace (Mars in Capricorn in the tenth house) she meets the man who two years later will become her husband: she falls in love with him and naturally begins to have sporadic episodes of sexual intercourse. Sporadic because they do not live in the same city and the practical difficulties prevent regularity, or perhaps mask a lack of sexual desire. After about a year of seeing each other, he begins to stay with her family but even this does not lead to improvement in their sex lives: the presence of the parents inhibits their lovemaking. She 1 is happy to leave the family home, with her parents’ blessing, she gives no weight to the sexual problems, and with this taken for granted, she marries.
 

In the birth chart of HIM 1, we see his complexity; the Moon is situated in Sagittarius, in the second house, aligned with the conjunction between Pluto-Uranus, positioned in Virgo, in the second house, and with Saturn in Pisces, in the fourth house; he receives opposition from Jupiter in Gemini in the eighth house. In addition, the planet forms the sixth to Mars in Aquarius, in the fourth house and triangulates with Medium Coeli. The difficulties with the mother figure are noteworthy; rejected from the beginning of the pregnancy as the last born in a large family with only the mother to cope, since the father was absent because of work for months at a time. From a young age, he tries every means to attract the mother’s attention; being the best of good boys, obedient and docile, but when that doesn’t work, he switches to the other extreme, becoming rebellious and unruly and creating the greatest number of disasters possible in order to achieve his ends (Pluto and Uranus in the tenth house). He becomes dependent on the mother because of this intimate necessity of being accepted by her. In adolescence, he has his first sexual experience with a woman twice his age, which doubly accentuates the duplicity of his way of behaving: in his approach to women he sometimes becomes insolent, arrogant, makes vulgar remarks and shows his sexuality, while at other times he is timid, awkward, silent and apathetic. At twenty-five, he marries, and the sweet side of his nature, considerate and affectionate, is the one that emerges, but with this, his sex drive diminishes. He continues to play his masculine role with her: he runs the family, takes all decisions for both, but he begins to become sexually frustrated. After a couple of years, the erotic desires disappear, the lovemaking diminishes exponentially until it is completely absent; she becomes ever more uneasy and begins to paw the ground, to widen her gaze in search of a surrogate. She meets someone at her new workplace; he is a lad of less than 18, ten years her junior.

Actually, in the birth chart of SURROGATE 1 we notice that the Moon is in Aries in the sixth house, in opposition to Pluto in Gemini, in the twelfth house, triangulated by Neptune, in Sagittarius, in the second house level with Mars in Cancer, in the ninth house. The conflict with the mother figure weighs heavily; the love-hate relationship, the acceptance and rejection, give him a profound sense of inferiority to women, accentuated by a castration anxiety, transmitted by the alignment of Pluto with Mars.
The Sun in Libra, in the twelfth house, brings tension over the identification of his own masculinity, which is overcome, however, thanks to the conjunction that the planet forms with Pluto and the conjunction of Jupiter with Mars. In fact, his creative-sexual drive makes him a classic surrogate who needs many different women to placate his inner conflicts and his insecurity.
Both in the birth chart of the husband and that of the surrogate, the Moon is found in a fire sign and of the same degree and for both it is in opposition to Pluto and bound to Mars. In addition, for both men, Mars is bound positively to Jupiter and has the strength associated with Cancer; for the surrogate, it is found within his sign while, for the husband, it is in the fourth house, co-significant Cancer. The diversity of the behaviour of the two is due to the Sun, which in the surrogate invests vital creative energy while for the husband, the Sun, isolated in Capricorn in the third house, holds him back in the age of adolescence.
The relationship between HER 1 and SURROGATE 1 is ardent, all her repressed sexual drive violently explodes; the excitement and the passion sweep both of them up, so much that, notwithstanding the fact they spend the days together at work, they feel the need to spend the evenings together as well. Irrationality overtakes her and she fails to hide the relationship from the husband, who inevitably plunges into crisis but is unable to react. The relations with the surrogate last about a year, in spite of the fact that in the meantime he has fallen in love with the boss’s daughter (Moon in the sixth house).
The matrimonial crisis continues; the husband remains deaf to her sexual needs, incapable of taking any decisions; so it is she who again takes the lead over the separation or, more precisely, who asks for an annulment by the Church on the grounds that the marriage has not been consummated. In this way, she succeeds in placating the mother, who, at the beginning, had lined up against her daughter, disapproving of her behaviour and advising her to remain at her husband’s side.
Women in whose birth chart the Moon is bound to Saturn or situated in signs or houses of Saturn, such as Gemini – seventh house, Capricorn – tenth house, Aquarius – eleventh house, seek a surrogate when they feel betrayed by their husbands, or because some aspects of the relations between them have vanished, or because he has become a surrogate for another woman. In a certain sense, the symbolism of “justice” so dear to Saturn is thus respected, as is fidelity, since, for this type of woman, the surrogate she chooses will be the “one and only” and last through time. One of the characteristics of the planet is the duty of being aware of the existence of others, to follow the governing rules and roles in dealing with others; when Saturn is in negative aspect, the subject finds herself forced to combat those who try to take away her chosen role; in this way she projects her frustrations and “sins” over the fact that the relationship isn’t working onto others.
Her way of seducing the surrogate is the height of rationality; when the woman meets a man who attracts her, she tries to conquer him with smiles, with gentle ways and almost perfect behaviour. She takes care of her appearance down to the tiniest detail, from her outer garments to her underwear; when she decides to provoke him, she is clear-headed about her sexiness, choosing panties and bra to match the occasion, and in the same way chooses presents for him – and she will often buy him presents – thinking carefully in her mind how to sweeten them with romanticism. Usually, in sexual intercourse, she will enjoy the preliminaries more than the act itself, because she finds it difficult to abandon her rationality; but, of course, this depends on the birth chart as a whole.

In the birth chart of HER 1 the Moon is situated in Capricorn, in the ninth house, and is in opposition to Saturn in Cancer, in the second house, while the triple conjunction of Sun, Venus and Mercury is also found in Cancer, but in the third house.
The Moon receives as well trigon in the Ascendant, which is found in the sign of Taurus, which bestows on her a sweet, harmonious, ever smiling, beautiful and colourful appearance. The conflicts within her soul are due to insecurity about her femininity, some difficulties with identity – the Moon in opposition to the Sun – from a lack of affection – the Moon in opposition to Venus – and difficulties in conveying the state of her mind – the Moon in opposition to Mercury. Every time she succeeds in establishing her independence, as the Moon in Capricorn requires, and her liberty, as the Moon in the ninth house demands, she succeeds in enjoying it for only a limited time because all at once some negative event strikes her so that she is blocked, immobilised, as required by the opposition between the planets in the third house and the Moon in the ninth house. After having brilliantly completed her studies, she finds work and marries after nine years of engagement with a boy she had met at fourteen years old: she thus succeeds in realising the promptings furnished by the grouping of planets in Cancer.
After some years, this union is complicated both by the demands of her growing son and the diminution in sexual activity. She reacts, as dictated by the planets in the third house, trying to broaden the family through social contacts, drawing in work acquaintances and getting her husband involved.

In the birth chart of HIM 2, the Moon is impregnated with masculine power in so far as, notwithstanding the conjunction with Venus, which adds beauty and love for aesthetics, both planets are situated in Aries, in the first house, and align with Jupiter in Cancer, in the fifth house, and triangulate with Pluto in Leo, in the sixth house. The Moon, in addition, is in the sixth with Saturn in Gemini in the third house, in opposition to Neptune in Libra in the seventh house. From all the aspects formed by the Moon, one can deduce that its feminine prototype will be reflected in his choice of a tough, active, creative, impulsive and generous woman, but who at the same time knows how to be rational, independent and who is able to assume the responsibilities of a family. These characteristics are rarely found in just one woman and it is exactly because of this dichotomy that he is driven to have several escapades in his married life. But the principal cause must be ascribed to Mars, which in his birth chart is situated in Capricorn, in the twelfth house, and is in opposition to Pluto, giving a man a profound castration anxiety and a fear of penetration. The planet is in trigon with the conjunction between Saturn and Uranus, which allows him to channel part of his sexual energy into his work; and the trigon with Neptune permits him to find gratification through fantasy, sensitivity and diversity. The Sun is in Pisces and being in the first house, is filled with vitality and the energy of Aries. The search for new adventures, of new emotions, to be found in different women, must only last however while he is free of responsibility and bonds, because for him, his wife profoundly represents his own feminine side (Moon triangulated with Pluto).
The disillusionment of HER 2, when she discovers her husband’s affairs, is scalding; she reacts by throwing all her energies into her work, the Moon in Capricorn, and within a few years she succeeds in reaching the apex of her career. At the same time, within herself, she begins to nurture a desire for revenge and for “justice”, and starts to look around. Close by, in fact, in a couple with whom they are close friends, SURROGATE 2 is found, a man I would define as a real Don Juan.
 

In his birth chart, rich in aspects, we find Pluto situated in Leo in the sixth house, triangulated with the Sun in Aries, in the second house, triangulated with Mercury in Pisces, in the first house, and triangulated with the Moon in Sagittarius, in the tenth house. In the sixth with Saturn in Gemini, in the fourth house and sixth with Uranus in Gemini, in the third house; in addition, it is aligned with Venus in Taurus in the second house and in opposition to Mars in Aquarius in the first house.
The strong qualities of fire drive him to be competitive, to want to be the first, the best, above all in the area of sex (Sun in Aries); all this accentuated by the desire to be a hero and by a strong sex drive from the trigon of Pluto with the Sun. But the opposition of Mars to the planet undermines him profoundly, insinuating doubts over his own virility; doubts that drive him to have several women at once, in such a way as to give one the passion and intrigue so as to be able to function with the other.
At the moment the sparks fly between HER 2 and SURROGATE 2, he is married and already has one lover, but She comes to know that only later, when she is already in love and has found that sex with him is more rewarding than with her husband.
Jealousy is unleashed in her, not towards the wife but towards the lover, projecting onto her all the blame for the fact that the subject will not leave his wife. The four-way relationship lasts for many years until, tired and frustrated by the constant battle with the other, she leaves him and returns to her family. The husband, in the meantime, has advanced in his professional career, becoming surer of himself and that raises his esteem with his wife. But the period of conjugal harmony, or better, fraternal affection, lasts only a few years, because he suddenly dies of a cerebral stroke (Mars at the time of his birth was overloaded by the contemporaneous transit of Pluto and Uranus). Sorrowful and depressed, she is just fifty years old. At the funeral, she sees the surrogate and his wife. He tries to console her, to stay close to her, to offer her a shoulder to cry on. But after a few months, the friendship inevitably turns to love and sex. He finds himself once more married (the Moon in trigon with Pluto) and once more with another lover: the same “four-way” situation of years earlier.
In the birth chart of SURROGATE 2 the Moon is in Sagittarius, in opposition to Saturn and Uranus, greatly increasing the impossibility of sustaining a single and long lasting relationship with one woman. Instead, he succeeds in maintaining three affairs contemporaneously, thanks also to the trigon that Pluto receives from Mars, which permits him to be always ready to perceive, relate to and react with style to his women. The profound emotional dissatisfaction that is, however, always present in his soul, is dictated by the alignment of Pluto with Venus.
After two years of conflicting relationships, just at the moment when the surrogate presents transitory Uranus in alignment with birth Venus, she leaves him, because she meets another man with whom she establishes an emotional-sexual relationship that takes her to the altar for a second time.

The women in the two examples described above have the Moon bound to Uranus, which makes them decisive, level-headed and dynamic: this is one of the functions of the planet, but if, in a woman’s birth chart, masculine planets like the Sun, Mars and Pluto do not play their part, only rarely will the Moon-Uranus aspect bring a woman the desire or the will to have a surrogate.
Those who present a Moon bound to Neptune will experience some intense emotional affairs with surrogates but only on a platonic level, satiating their desires by fantasising over a glance or some attention paid to them. But even in these cases, isolating themselves in their illusions will create a detachment from their husbands, who will be forced to take stock and conquer their interest once more.
In any case, it can be said that the surrogate can be beneficial, either by reinvesting the coffee with its pleasurable flavour or by succeeding in eliminating it altogether as injurious to their health.